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I have so many titles for this post…… Filipina Women Are Crazy – You’ve been Warned!! How Text Messaging Can Ruin a Relationship Andy Gets Screwed By Two Women In Less Than 6 Months

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Everything was going great with my new eHarmony Boo, really great. From the moment I met her there was that special connection we both had with each other. It was one of those connections that you feel from the pit of your stomach, but you cant explain. I fell head over heals in love with her, she was everything I was looking and hoping for. I believe she fell in love with me as well. But little things began to pop up… If you read my other article What Is Up With Filipino Women and Money? you could see that the red flags were already beginning to pop up. We discussed the money business pretty much to ad nauseam. It was worked out, but It was still in the back of my mind and I still felt like I was under pressure…

Today’s incident was pretty much the fatal blow to the boyfriend/girlfriend portion of our relationship. A little background first. Her ex-husband screwed her over pretty bad. I can’t go into much detail because I promised her I wouldn’t. He didn’t beat her or anything like that but he put her through the emotional ringer, big, big, big time and then he wanted a Divorce. I had discussions with her friends and daughter and it was unanimous that she was the innocent party. If I was put through that kind of ringer by a person I guarantee you I would have as little to do with that person as humanly possible. What I noticed though, is that in our conversations she would complain to me that ”all” of her girlfriends would slam him about what he did to her (That should tell you something), and she would always have to defend him saying what a nice guy he is. Nice Guy? He literally screwed her in the ass emotionally and financially???? Red Flag! .I was warned.. She was still in love with this character. I’m gonna go out on a limb here, but I honestly believe this has something to do with it. Her ex-husband makes bukoo bucks.. were talking over 20o+k a year. I think the money is playing a big factor in this. Remember, he left her, she didn’t want to leave him..

So anyway, this morning I’m at a college fair with my son and soon to be ex inept wife. We were actually having a good time together for a change. Then all of a sudden my cell phone alerts me that I have a text message. “Oh Boy” a text from me eHarmony Boo…! Do you see it coming…..? I open my cell phone and sure enough it’s her. I open the message and the first line reads, “Hi <her ex’s name>”… At first I think nothing of it. They text each other all the time about the kids. She made a mistake and sent it to me… But this message wasn’t about the kids… I read the message… over and over again. As messages go it wasn’t a horrible message. But there was this one line that got me.

“We are very proud of your achievements!” Achievements?? Kicking her to the curb, abandoning his family, putting her through an emotional ringer that any normal person would probably cut his testicles off over? This was not a text from an angry ex wife. This was a text from an ex-wife that is still in love with her ex-husband and is suffering from battered (emotional) wife syndrome. He does no wrong.. after all he’s a super nice guy……

I responded to the text. I told her she sent it to me in error. I didn’t hear from her for hours. Red Flag 2 . She called about 4 hours later. I didn’t answer. She sent a text message about a half hour after that, “Hi, is everything OK?”. No Bitch!! What kind of a question is that?.. Let’s be meek and try to pretend nothing happened?… Negative! We were suppose to have dinner tonight. I sent her a text saying I wanted a rain check and needed some time to think. She called right after and left a voicemail message, saying she understood and if I wanted to call her to talk it out I could. That to me is an admission of quilt.

Needless to say I’m pretty upset over this. I knew it was coming, my little voices were telling me. But I was hoping my voices were wrong. They weren’t, as usual. I’d be a fool to continue on with the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, at least right now. Maybe in a few years after she under goes some therapy or her ex remarries. All it would take would be for him to ask her for her forgiveness and she will high tale it back to him and his 200+k income. I don’t think she sees it this way, she is in some sort of serious denial.

I’m going to have to discuss this with her and soon. I have to work out my game plan. I don’t really now what I’m going to do. In the mean time I’m going to bake myself some chocolate chip cookies, watch Big Trouble in Little China and then cry myself to sleep. Yea, I know…. not very manly, but I’ll feel better after words.