eHarmony – Is it too Conservative for Me?
I was up until 1AM last night going through my eharmony account and checking out my new potential matches. As I was reading the profiles it began to dawn on me that maybe part of my problem is, the ladies that subscribe to eHarmony are, in general, too conservative. After all, eHarmony will not let the homosexuals play. To me, that alone is a crock. Every culture has different dating rituals, but they are all basically the same. Black, White, Asian, Gay or Straight, love is love. Being compatibility with a mate is the same across the board. The only differences between gay and straight people are…. Well you know.
eHarmony has a reputation for being conservative. Therefore it would attract conservative people. To date I’ve gone through 240 potential matches and what I have noticed is that there seems to be a lot of business owners, Catholics and border line bible thumpers subscribing to eHarmony. Now, I have not done any kind of statistical study, this is just my general impression. On the other hand there also seems to be a fair amount of boring people too. When you read their profiles you wonder why they even exist. What is your favorite activity? One of them actually said, “Walking around the Block”. Oh, what fun!… I want that girl!!
This conservativeness could be part of my problem. I am far from conservative. Between my overall immaturity and my brain damage I’m a bit of a nut case. A fun nut case though. Get me drunk with my misfiring neurons and I am off the hook! So I probably scare off quite a few people, especially if you are conservative. But then again I could just be hideous looking.
Come on people vote. My picture is on the home page… Vote… “I needs to know” (Do you know where that line came from? Hint: a film in the 70 made in San Francisco)
The two ladies that I was communicating with, just fizzled out, actually I closed the matches. All game and no play, I think they just enjoy the attention from strangers; it helps to satisfy their id.
I did break myself of the Icebreakers. No more icebreakers for Andy. I just send out the questions right off the bat. That does not seem to be working very well either. I only had one response so far. But again, she seems to be too conservative and after the answers I sent her yesterday, I’m sure I’ll scare her off.
I did have one lady initiate communication with me without any prodding on my part. This leads to a whole other problem. She isn’t, how should I say, exactly my type. She’s kind of big, if you know what I mean. Not that there isn’t anything wrong with BBW, it’s just not something that I can get in to. I don’t mind a few extra pounds, it’s just when your 5′1 and hittin 300lbs… I just can’t do it. My problem is that I just don’t know what to do. I do not want to be mean to her, I’m sure she’s a super sweet, nice lady. But how do you decline without being rude. The easy out would be to check the box “I’m pursing another relationship”, but that would be lying (see I do have morals), or I could just check “Other”, but that seems so insensitive… I can’t just ignore her.. after all she’s reaching out.. What to do? What to do? Your thoughts would be appreciated on this particular problem..
I played around with Match.Com the other day and filled out thier Chemistry test since eHarmony doesn’t seem to be panning out for me. Now I’m getting thier teaser emails. The atmosphere at Match.Com seems to be more energetic, less conservative and the pictures of the Asian Women in their emails are HOT! Could this just be a case of the grass is always greener on the other side? I have another month with eHarmony before they jack up my rate to $29.95 a month, so I’ll stick with them and resist temptation for know.
I’m taking the advice of a commenter Jesus Sanchez and preparing myself (growing some testicles) in the event this Online Dating doesn’t pan out. I found this great blog Mr Nice Guy’s Corner that is filled with excellent advice to get women. It’s really worth a read.
I’ll keep you posted….
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Hi there, nice blog by these ways ; ) I am wondering for the sake of your conscience and the better outcome to write to the woman and say that you appreciate her personality and sense of humour, but you are not attracted to her physically, and either give the option of being friends if you want to, or just say thanks, it was flattering and leave it at that
smiles. hard this is, that much it is true.
good luck with the new site. sounds good. will give a go, but i hate spending money on that shit. it is annoyisng, thanks for your insight though. nice blog, dudea!! xxo