Why Must She Lie?
So I’m throwing this out to all of you, especially anyone from the female persuasion. Any insight to this question would be greatly appreciated.
I’m nosey. I admit it, not the best character trait, but all this Divorce stuff is still very new to me and has me tweaked a bit. A week or two ago she left her work organizer out. I couldn’t help to browse through it. I noticed that she took this Thursday, Friday and next Monday off. I thought to myself, “I wonder if she’s going to tell me about this?” It’s none of my business; she doesn’t have to tell me diddley. But we have this agreement. The main reason why she wants to still be in the house is so she can take care of her boy. But, the only thing she does for him is cook and does his laundry. She spends absolutely no time with him. I can do those things. The agreement is if she is going to be home late, let me know so I can prepare if I need to cook for the boy, pretty simple and straight forward.
So I wait until Thursday rolls around. We get up at the usual time and I get ready for work. I hear her up and about but she’s staying out of sight, which is not her usual morning routine. Hmmm…. Something’s up… As I leave the house I knock on her door and say I’m leaving and for her to have a good day at work. But I purposefully forget my medication. I go out to my truck, load up my stuff and then head back inside the house. As I walk In I see her door is now open, and I hear her in the kitchen. I can literally feel the terror; seriously… it was so thick if you waved your hand around you could see it move. I grabbed my medicine from my room and walked into the kitchen. Low and behold she’s wearing her “come fuck me clothes”. I start the conversation by saying, “Wow, so casual, are you going to work?” Her reply is “I’m only working half day”. The terror in the air is intensifying tenfold. I then reply, “That’s still way too casual and seductive even for a half day, you know I really wish you wouldn’t lie to me, it shows a real lack of respect towards me.” She mumbles, “I’m sorry” then I leave for the day. I know she’s going to spend the day with her new man Joe.
So the whole day goes by and she never calls me. My son comes home with his girlfriend for dinner. She knows they’re going to be home. She’s nowhere to be seen. There isn’t enough food in the refrigerator to make dinner for three, so the three of us go out to eat. We had a good time, my son who is 17 going on 30, allowed me to vent and ramble on for 20 minutes. I felt so much better afterwards
This isn’t the first time she lied. When this whole thing started, she was telling, I won’t say lies, but half truths and misrepresentations to my family and hers. The things she told my family caused a huge rift, I haven’t spoken to anyone since it started. One of the things she told my family was that I was giving her a hard time for being on the phone for a couple of hours a day with her new man Joe. What I did give her a hard time about was that she spent 17 hours on the phone with him in a two day period. That’s not normal. She also didn’t tell my family that she was intimates with her new man Joe, he was just a close friend. She also told my family that the night of the divorce I was drinking. Yes I had two beers between 6pm and 7:30pm. Had dinner and went to bed. The divorce fight didn’t start until about 2:30 in the morning after I found her locked in the den talking to her man. No alcohol was involved. I can go on and on, but I think I got my point across
Granted I set her up a bit on Thursday, but I really don’t understand why she lies now? Help here people! To the best of my knowledge she hasn’t lied to me the entire time we were together, I’m not talking white lies like we all do, but the big ones. This is way out of character for her… I don’t understand. Now maybe she’s trying not to hurt me by keeping everything a secret, but the fact she’s doing what she’s doing already hurts and lying makes it ten times worse. It makes me feel like dirt.
So people, why does she feel the need to lie? Not just to me, but everyone around her? I’m looking for some insight here… your help and comments would be greatly appreciated.
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