Divorce – The Regret Period
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Regrets? Not me baby! Life is most excellent! The inept one wanting a Divorce is the best thing that has happened to me since the birth of our son. I have found the most perfect match for me. She is an awesome lady who possess all the qualities I have always desired in a women. She beautiful, funny, responsible, real, very intelligent, a real go getter and most important, extremely affectionate and loving. She’s changed my thinking towards the positive. Thank You eharmony!
My inept ex on the other hand is having a case of the regrets, at least for the moment. I saw it in her eyes last night. We were discussing her upcoming minor surgery. She wants me to drive her to the hospital the morning of the surgery, then she wants me to pick her up the next day and drive her to her sisters house where she wants to stay for a few days for her initial recovery period. At first I had no problem with it. But then I began to think, always dangerous for me, what about her new man Joe? It does makes sense for me to drive her to the hospital because it’s in the city and we live about 50 miles away. But Joe lives in the city; why isn’t he picking her from the hospital and taking her to her sisters house? Oh yea…! I forgot….. He doesn’t have a drivers license or a car. But wait again… he makes 80+ K a year. He can surely afford to pick her up in a cab and take her to her sisters, right?
My mind was racing at that very moment. I really wanted to take the low road, I had the perfect opportunity to reinforce to her that this guy is a loser. He’s 47 years old and he lives with his mommy for gods sake!. I absolutely amazed myself, I took the high road. I told her it wouldn’t be a problem and I’d be happy to do it.
I still wanted to feel her out about this relationship she has with Joe. So I asked her, “do you want me to hang out at the hospital with you, or is Joe going to be there?” She didn’t have an immediate answer. I continued to say that I only asked because I didn’t want her to be alone at the hospital, if Joe was going to be there then I would leave, no problem. She hesitated a little and then said, “I don’t know what he wants to do, he hasn’t mentioned anything to me about it.” Hmmm….. interesting? If it was my new Boo I would insist on being there… I want to take care of the person I love, very odd. That’s when I saw it. The regret
I feel bad for her. She didn’t even want to attempt any kind of reconciliation including a marriage counselor. Her bad. She kicked me to the curb without thinking it through. Typical for the inept one.
Strangely, I feel guilty. I’m happier than I have ever been, and she sees this. But there is no turning back for me. I’m in a positive forward motion and I’m gonna keep moving forward. I’ll be there for her, but I have a new, better life with my Boo, the love of my life…
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